IWSG: Devastated


Today is the first Wednesday of March, which means it’s IWSG time. This month’s co-hosts are the wonderful and talented Lauren Hennessy, Lisa Buie-Collard, Lidy, Christine Rains, and Mary Aalgaard.

Don’t be shy, stop by and say hello to the co-hosts and participants.

IWSG is a group for writers to meet once a month and share their insecurities. It’s amazing how one kind word from a fellow blogger and author can help me see the positives and to focus on them and not dwell too much on the negatives.

Miles in the park

Miles in the park

The last time I posted I mentioned that Miles, my dog, was sick. He returned from the vet and was improving. Then he took a bad turn and I rushed him back to the hospital.

Miles passed away a couple of weeks ago and I am completely devastated. He lived 13 years and I’m hoping they were wonderful years and he knew how much I loved him. He was so special and I feel lucky to have known him.

Since his passing I haven’t felt like doing much, including blogging. I would like to apologize to the authors I hosted in February’s e-book giveaway. I didn’t plug the giveaway as much as I should have. My sincere apologies. I’m not hosting a giveaway this month. I need some time to regroup.

I’ve been working or I’d lose my mind. Most days I’ve managed to meet my daily word count goal. I had planned on releasing two stories in a new series called Girl Love Happens last month, but now I’m releasing them in a couple of weeks.

In other news, earlier this year many readers joined my book launch team. In case you missed your chance, here’s the link to join. This month the group is helping me promote the first two episodes in Girl Love Happens and I’m excited to see how it shakes out.

Hopefully soon I’ll be back in full swing when it comes to blogging. I know I owe many of you a visit. I miss chatting and keeping up with everything in your lives.

About TBM

TB Markinson is an American who's recently returned to the US after a seven-year stint in the UK and Ireland. When she isn't writing, she's traveling the world, watching sports on the telly, visiting pubs in New England, or reading. Not necessarily in that order. Her novels have hit Amazon bestseller lists for lesbian fiction and lesbian romance. She cohosts the Lesbians Who Write Podcast (lesbianswhowrite.com) with Clare Lydon. TB also runs I Heart Lesfic (iheartlesfic.com), a place for authors and fans of lesfic to come together to celebrate lesbian fiction.
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40 Responses to IWSG: Devastated

  1. Vishy says:

    So sorry to know about Miles, TBM. We all loved him. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. I hope he is in doggie heaven now missing you as much as you are missing him. My thoughts are there with you and your family.

  2. patgarcia says:

    I am so sorry about Miles. I know where you are at. I had a cat named Clay and I had him 22 years long. It was a beautiful relationship. My Clay didn’t know he was a cat. He and I experienced some beautiful times and I did my very best to keep him living as long as I could until he looked at me one morning when he was so sick and it seemed to me he said, it is time for us to part. That was in 2008 and since then I haven’t had a cat. I took the time to mourn Clay and let myself heal.
    You’re doing the right thing by making yourself do things. I made myself work. It helped.
    All the best for your book launches and take care.

  3. colonialist says:

    Sorry that you lost Miles, but that was a decent age. So sad that dogs aren’t designed to live a human lifespan. It means, though, that one needs to adjust to the need to share one’s life with a number of them over the years – and the best solace for losing such a friend is finding and winning the love of another ‘special’ companion just meant for you.

  4. Nicola says:

    Sending you lots of hugs across the ether. I’m sure there is a gaping void in your life. Try to fill that with the happy memories of Miles. Wishing you strength as well as lots of luck with your Girl Love Happens series. Take care.

  5. My heart has been breaking for you ever since you told me about Miles. There is nothing I can say that will make it any easier for you because I know how much you miss him every day, but you do have wonderful memories that in time will make you smile. He was your buddy, and you had great times together, and you can rest assured that you made his life the best it could possibly be. Hugs my friend, and I’m here for you.

  6. I’m so sorry to hear you lost your beloved Miles. Letting go is so hard to do, but I know you have the most wonderful memories of him. Hugs.

  7. I’m sorry! Our furry friends just don’t live long enough. I’m sure he knew you love him and that he was family. Just take your time with stuff now.

  8. Geoff W says:

    Oh no! Sorry to hear about Miles. I’m glad you have work to keep you busy even if it’s not where your heart is at the moment. Good luck with the new releases.

  9. kindlemom1 says:

    I’m so sorry for the lost of your little one. It is so hard losing a beloved pet. I really hope you are up to writing again soon. *hugs*

  10. This makes me so sad to read. I’ve no doubt Miles had nothing but wonderful years with you. I’ve always enjoyed reading about him here, it was clear he was a special guy. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  11. I’m so sorry to hear about Miles. Our rat, Wilbur, did that. He got sick, I got him to the vet, he seemed to rally, and then he took a turn for the worse in the middle of the night. I kept telling him to just hold on until the vet opened, but he didn’t. I kept telling myself- he was just a rat. But our pets are more than critters, they’re friends and it hurts to lose friends.

  12. Chrys Fey says:

    I’m so sorry! I wish I knew what else to say but I know words don’t really make us feel better after losing a beloved pet. Miles is your guard dog in Heaven now. 🙂 HUGS!!!

  13. Pat Hatt says:

    Never easy to lose a furry friend. But you gave him a great life and that is all one can ask for in the end.

  14. Robyn Engel says:

    I’m so sad for you. I can tell from the photo that he was an utter sweetheart. So sorry. Virtual hugs.

  15. I’m so sorry to hear about Miles. He was a gorgeous fellow and I’m certain he knew how much you loved him.

  16. Losing a fur baby is so hard. We lost one two years ago and it’s still tough. They are members of the family and can’t be replaced.

  17. Sending cheese and love. Keep your chin up and know you’re in my thoughts.

  18. So, so sorry to hear about Miles passing away. Losing one of my own pets never fails to break me, so I can only imagine the kind of grief you’re experiencing right now… *hugs*

  19. lexacain says:

    So sad about Miles. I’m sorry for your loss, TB. Losing a furbaby is heartbreaking. I’ve lost so many over the years I can’t bear to have pets anymore. Take time to regroup. Feel better.

  20. So sorry to hear about Miles. I’m sure he knew how you felt. Take time to grieve, and I hope you can find peace and maybe somewhere down the road, a new pet to love.

  21. My deepest sympathies on the loss of Miles, TB. I shall be looking back on your old posts about him to reminisce about the great times you had. You are in my thoughts.

  22. Olivia says:

    I am so sorry about Miles. Losing a pet is always hard. Glad you have work to help you and keep you busy.

  23. cheriereich says:

    It’s so hard to lose a furbaby. They’re more special than children because they always love us unconditionally. *hugs*

  24. Sorry about your loss. Our pets truly are members of our family. I doubt there’s anyone out there who can fault you for your grief. ❤ ❤ ❤

  25. gwynnrogers says:

    I am SO sorry that Miles passed over the rainbow bridge. I know how difficult it is to lose a beloved pet as I have lost four furry friends. It took me ages to recover from my grief. Take care of yourself!

  26. Michelle K. Allen says:

    Sending you much love and comfort during this difficult time. Miles was a sweetie and he lived an incredible, adventurous life with you. I hope you keep on taking your walks, even in his absence. Fresh air and Spring can really help mend the heart. *bigolehug*

  27. Aw, I only just read this! Am so sorry about Miles 😦 You gave that pup an absolutely great life, of that I am convinced. Is Att missing him…?

    Don’t feel guilty about taking a blogging break. It’ll take as long as it takes until you feel like getting back to it, and it will still be here. As will we 🙂

  28. What a wonderful life he had with you! Never doubt that.

  29. pattisj says:

    I’m so sorry to hear you’ve lost Miles. I think of him every time I see a post from you. I wish dogs lasted forever, they do move right in and take over one’s heart. I know how hard it is, and it does take time to grieve their loss, just like any beloved family member.

  30. Sending you lots of hugs. I’m still mourning my Nini and I had to let her go in July. And, of course, I’m still mourning my brother. I don’t think I’ve regrouped yet. He did know he was loved, and you gave him a great life. http://mpaxauthor.com

  31. It’s always so sad to say good-bye to our fur friends no matter how long they live or how they end up going. Such memories you must have of that character of yours.

  32. I’m so sorry about your dog. I don’t feel like doing much of anything when one of my pets passes away. It’s devastating. We did give them an amazing home when they were with us.

    I signed up for your list.

  33. I am so sorry to hear about your dog. I know how hard it is to lose a pet who was really a member of the family. I am glad you are taking some time to regroup. Sending out a big hug to you!

  34. I’m so sorry about Miles. It’s terrible to lose a beloved pet like this.

  35. cleemckenzie says:

    Losing a good friend is so hard. I’m sorry, but I know from all you’ve said, Miles had a good doggy life and brought a lot into yours while living it.

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  37. Beth Ann says:

    I have been missing you as well –life has gotten in the way lately for me as well and I have been absent from visiting your blog and I am so sorry to hear about your sweet Miles. So very sorry. Sending love and more across the pond to you.

  38. Oh, no! I am so very, very sorry. No wonder you are devasted. Miles was so adorable and of course he knew how much you loved him and he absolutely adored you, of course. You were his everything. Dogs are like that. We are the center of their universe, which is why we love them so much and why we are so devastated when they pass away. Hugs to you. Sending love and peace.

  39. Jo Bryant says:

    I have been absent from blogging myself, which is why I just saw this. I am so sorry to hear about Miles. Having lost a few fur babies myself I know how deep the grief is. I imagine that you still feel his loss keenly and wish I could pop over and give you a hug. I shall have to make do with sending you a hug through my imagination. Miles was lucky to be so loved, and I am sure that even in your grief, you would not have never known him. I want to give you a poem. It comforts me in such moments.

    Invocation – by Rod McKuen

    It may happen
    that in some hidden
    middle night

    you’ll rise up
    and come to me
    in solitude or silence.

    We will meet
    as we have met
    on a train or at the end
    of some new train of thought.

  40. My apologies in being so late to the news about Miles. I’m so, so sorry to hear that he passed. I believe Miles lived a wonderful life and knew how much you loved him. He was a wonderful, special little dog.
    I hope you are well, wherever you have settled.

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